2. Prepare your child as much as possible in advance. Regardless of your child’s gender a baby doll might be just the thing to help. You can dress the doll, feed it, help it not cry, and hold it. Talk to your child and explain what is going to be happening. They might understand more than you think. Let her/him feel the baby’s movement in your tummy.
3. Specifically ask others to include a little something for your older child in their gift bag. Even a simple piece of candy or balloon can help them feel included and loved. Or you can give your child a gift yourself.
4. If your birth is at the hospital and you’re bringing your baby home to meet big sister/brother, go meet him/her first. Explain what happened. Let them see that your belly is smaller now. Let them hold their baby (with help obviously).
5. Include him/her when taking pictures of the baby. Make them feel special too.
6. Make your new baby his or her baby. If it becomes her baby then she wants to
take care of it and love it. Your child needs to feel needed. Perhaps she can go get a diaper for you or fetch a blanket. Singing to the baby is a fantastic way to get them involved and it doesn’t require their smothering love. The more you can include them the better.
7. Breastfeeding can be a tough time because it excludes them completely. Reserve special toys or activities only for while you’re breastfeeding. Play special music or audiobooks. Could you use your other arm for cuddle time?
8. When your child does act up, sometimes ignoring their actions takes away their desire to act up. However, some things can not be ignored. Act with tolerance and understanding instead of punishment. Ask them how they’re feeling, then listen. Praise them for the good things they do.